My personal message for you,
Recovery takes place in the real world. Coaching can help.
You can read more of Cindy's personal story in Good Enough (...when losing is winning, perfection becomes obsession and thin enough can never be achieved).
Recovery work is challenging. It's frightening, especially in the beginning. You will be frustrated. You will get discouraged and exhausted. There are incredible and wonderful doctors, thereapists, counselors and coaches to provide treatment, support and guidance that YOU need and deserve. Yes, recovery is an imperfect process that happens over time, which includes stumbling and even falls. What matters MORE is that you get back on track and try again. Recovering from an eating disorder is individual to you. The longer you stick with this, recovery gets easier. It is about trying. "As long as you try, you are not a failure."
This is how you can get to that "better" place. It's about giving yourself a chance. A chance to try life differently. To respond in a new way. You won't do it perfectly. You will make mistakes. You will have successes. And in this manner, you will find YOUR SELF. You will grow and reconnect with the strong, healthier YOU. This may be the hardest, most rewarding goal you will achieve. Because when you care for and "save" your self, you will find your authentic self.
Recovery is about writing new chapters. It's about asking and answering: "What do I want now and next for myself?" It's about finding and reconnecting with your authentic self, responding to life differently, and becoming and being the person you were always meant to be - YOU.
Always with hope and always from my heart to yours,
Cindy Joy (Nappa) Bitter
You are not an eating disorder.
It's how you lived your life.
Today, I am a Life Coach, not only because of my training, my educaton, or my career choice. It's really because of what I learned from my personal experiences and those of my clients. I learned it wasn't just about food, eating or my body size. It was about, well, life! The greater challenge was trying to figure out how to have a life without the illness that had been a major focus for too many years. It was trying to figure out the answers to:
What do I want now?
How do I live without an eating disorder, when all I have known is how to live with an eating disorder?
And most important, answering the question:
Who and how do I want to be?
These are the questions and roadblocks that individuals with eating disorders face as they work to create and have a life full of meaning and purpose.
Many people know that I suffered from severe eating disorders (anorexia and bulimia for 25 years, way more years then I ever thought possible. Today, I am recovered. Fully recovered.
I am not saying this was easy or quick. It wasn't. In fact, my full recovery took a total of nine years and was damn hard. Nor am I saying that if I can do it, so can you. There is no one way, no one right way nor a wrong way to recovering from eating disorders. The best way is whatever helps you overcome the eating struggles, helps you move forward, what works for you in the ways YOU need. It's about finding and receiving the support, the information, the guidance, the treatment and resources that are specific to your needs.
What I share on my website and in my coaching, is my real hope, my support and absolute belief that it is possible for individuals to recover their health and their life. This is my truth about recovery.
It is hard work but with supportive, knowledgeable and compassionate people who walk beside you on your journey, you will receive helping hands, guiding words and your best cheerleaders. You can travel the distance knowing you are not alone.
If you struggle with an eating disorder, I write these words to encourage you to keep fighting. It is absolutely possible to recover from an eating disorder and move beyond the limited world of this illness into a healthier, better life.