Support for adults tends to drop off the longer they struggle and remain stuck in the throes of their eating disorder. Recovery work can become more complex, complicated and take years to tranverse. Discouragement, despair and hopelessness becomes the norm as access to resources becomes more difficult.
Along with the complexities associated with being an adult with an eating disorder, the eating disorder illness itself disrupts the normal stages of development, specifically life stages, transitions and milestones such as going to college, becoming independent adults, establishing a career, relationships, etc. Entering and maintaing eating disorder recovery can be a diffcult and confusing process on its own. Add to this, the inexperience or lack of life skills (due to the disruptive learning and development process/stages), an adult enters recovery or stays stuck without having had these normal life transitions and development. Thus, recovering from an eating disorder can now be and feel very complex and complicated at a time a person expects to know what and how to be as an adult.
Recovery or "getting better" and getting beyond an eating disorder, requires a person to make significant life(style) changes, learn to respond differently and make better choices, which are often unfamiliar, unnatural or possibly unknown to a person in recovery. For adults who are unprepared, ill-prepared or unsupported in early recovery, they can quickly become discouraged and stuck. They have watched their peers move on without them, which adds to their despair of feeling "stupid" because they believe they "should" know how to be an adult in their life.
It's normal to feel and be "stuck" or unsure during these early stages of eating disorder recovery. Transitions involve change into something unfamiliar that can be difficult to navigate. Expectations can be high and unrealistic with relapse looming if there is not enough support, specifically the support of people who undertand this part of the transitional journey. It's also normal to not have the answers to or know the answer to "what do I want?" especially for those who have been chronically struggling with an eating disorder for the majority of their adolescent and adult life.
As a Coach who is knowledgeable and experienced about the eating disorder recovery process, I partner with clients as a vital support and empowering guide to help normalize their recovery process. I coach them forward by helping them identify where they get stuck, clarify the direction (or goals) they want for themselves and help them put their plans in action. In this manner, coaching becomes an empowering process supporting the transition out of an "illness-focused" existence into one focused on present and future goals and healthier, happier lives. As your Coach, I provide the structure and guidance during transitional phases of recovery that fosters the development of a person's life skills that were disrupted or never developed during their eating disordered years.
It is no longer about having an eating disorder illness. With coaching it is about having a life.